Feelings of inferiority can kill us. Certainly not in the sense of physical killing, but killing a personal character. People who are low self-esteem tended to withdraw from the environment. If mingling with others, he positioned himself in the corner that barely visible. People did not dare lower themselves to show 'who he' and 'what he can do' better than anyone else. Is not this like a death? Yes, the death of a person's self worth.
The nature of low self-esteem is like a rusty faucet. He's very difficult to open, so that water can not flow smoothly. There is so much water in tanks on the roof, but could not get out because the flow is blocked by a clogged faucet. There is so much inventory that we have potential, but it is locked by feelings of inferiority that inhibit. For those of you who are interested to learn to cope with low self-esteem, I invite you to start by applying 5 Natural Intelligence capabilities following:
1. Appreciate yourself. The main cause of inferiority is not the way others treat us, but how do we reward ourselves. If you own self-respect well, others will not be able to overthrow your mental; even if they are trying to patronize you. But as good as any others treat you, if you yourself look down on yourself then you will still be a humble person. To overcome low self-esteem we must begin by appreciating ourselves appropriately in advance.
2. Taking control of your life. Consider again the people around us. There are people whose faces are not as pretty or handsome we are. Education not as high as we are. His appearance did not sebonafid us. But they were so confident. They ignored the scorn of others. They do not care about the disparaging view. As a result, they can work as closely as possible, then produce high achievement. Are you able to find someone like that? They have proved that the wheel of life is in his control, is not determined by judgments of others above himself. By taking control of life, they concentrate on its efforts. Although initially the weight, but at the end of the line they get a high reward. Even from those who previously dismissed.
3. Offset the shortage with the excess themselves. Mistaken if we think of others more fortunate than ourselves. In fact, everyone has flaws and strengths of each. The people that their inferiority is locked within the zone of deficiency himself while letting his potential wasted. Conversely, those who succeed are not those who do not have a shortage, but that always focuses on efforts to optimize the advantages it has. They realize the shortage itself, but offset that deficiency with excess itself.
4. Develop themselves endlessly. Above the mountains there are mountains. Even though you are a confident person, may feel inferior when dealing with others who are higher level than you. A manager may feel superior in front of the staff. However, when dealing with the directors? Trembling, too, is not it? It can be overcome with the effort to develop themselves continuously. In fact, the more respect a person's ability rather than position it bears. Although your high office, if you're not worth the actual capacity; other people will underestimate you. However, even if your position plain: if you can show a high capacity of self, people still respect you.
5. Contribution to others. Facts show if anyone really like the people who contribute. When a person is able to contribute, he immediately respected without being asked; how much money do you have? Someone who contributes honored without question whether sharp or flat nose, whether he is an officer or the people. If our lives are still plagued by low self-esteem, it may be because we have not contributed. Contribute to others, then you will be respected. Then with the honor you get it, a sense of inferiority will disappear by itself.
Every human being are equal. The difference is, whether he could benefit or not. The teacher even taught that the life of me; "the best of man is he who most benefit to others." How proud we are when it can benefit. This is not about pride before a fellow human being, but the pride before God. Because of the benefits we scatter, we come show; how God was pleased to spread the goodness.
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