Our Relationship Among Others

Have you ever been afraid to do business with friends and having fear of personal relationships can be damaged? Why many of us often unable to distinguish between friendship with a business relationship? If the situation was like this, good relations between two friends can easily damaged only because of money. Is it good relationships would be that fragile? What happens when good relations between people can be defeated easily? Is not success in business, negotiation, lobbying, coaching, persuasion very relied good relations? If so the importance of building good relationships, good relationships why the topic is not taught seriously in schools and in universities?

In the internet era, where many people relate to 'cyber', many would have thought that his lack of 'hanging out' or having contact with others can be dealt with in contact through the 'facebook', 'twitter' and other social media account. In fact, after fostering contacts over the air, there is still a need for 'ground coffee' and met face to face. This means that quality relationships can not be mere through lip service or on the surface. In the exhibition, where the guard booth to meet with prospective customers, the success of the follow-up of that relationship turned out to have persentage low, except when the selected stand guard really good at developing relationships and follow up. No wonder when the time is now, suddenly, many companies feel the need to improve interpersonal relationships among employees. It is actually very "common sense" is instantly perceived as a major requirement in the workplace.

Good relationships that are so often considered easy, it turns out when we actually observe it could be a 'problem'. We can easily find examples of people do not want to open a dialogue because they feel unable to take a position parallel to the others. There are people who give up because it never had the attitude that is not pleasing or not sure that the other party will respond positively. Woody Allen says, "A relationship, I think, is like a shark, you know? It has to constantly move forward or it will dies. And I think what we got on our hands is a dead shark. "In fact, we did see more news about the" dead sharks "than the relationship forward.

In our increasingly complex world, we can see that many people incorrectly define the relationship. We see how the representatives of the people it is difficult to get a deal. Slightly different opinion is often peppered with difficulty controlling his emotions, even if many individuals who are proud he is indifferent to the feelings of others. It's unfortunate if the relationship is perceived as a phenomenon of the black and white, but still not a priority to be developed. In fact, all of us who have entered the age of maturity must have been ups and downs in interpersonal relationships. Do not we can manage to keep the husband-wife, boss-subordinate? Mean, we just need a little more effort come first, and also develop good relationships.

Personal Chemistry
When we are asked to name someone who is good at building rapport, usually is imagined in our heads must be a sociable in the mix. Yes, this indeed could be one of the criteria, but there are other criteria that is important. People who are good at maintaining good relations are also people who are able to minimize failures in interpersonal relations. Useless if he made many friends, but also often offend people did not like. One can not we call a good relationship, when he was only comfortable dealing with people from certain circles, such as peers, profession, or even with the lower social level than him.

Some people are known to be very smart, but he seemed to have no 'personal chemistry' that can be used to organize, conduct coaching, to persuade men, or political negotiations with the smooth. There are people that flexible exchange pleasantries on the surface, whereas a quality relationship is a relationship that in, do not need too much further ado, but it feels smooth and soulful. Subtleties of this relationship, not just limited to language, but rather the ability to recognize, control and motivate yourself to keep working on making the other party 'happy' with its existence. Individuals who are "personal chemistry" is strong always aware that he needs to be powered to give inspiration to others. When people interact with other people will be comfortable and enjoy a genuine relationship. Capacity building "personal chemistry" also marked skill in resolving conflicts in a relatively rapid, not delayed, much less buried or even not at all resolved.

Always take the initiative to be Positive
A friend who is well versed in fostering good relations, when asked what the secret, said a sincere positive attitude is essential. This means, we must instill the idea that a good relationship is indeed everyone's wishes. Initiatives to foster a positive relationship should come from us. Intention to provide service and assistance will also need to come from us. We sometimes forget that grow with positive belief, will automatically make us more willing to open up, more honest to give the information 'personal' about ourselves, so the opportunity to have a transparent relationship is more easily achieved. By doing this, coaching activities, negotiations, reprimand, to 'manage' your boss, or whatever is often considered difficult in the 'people handling' will instantly appear humane and reasonable.